Comments for Ladies of the Round Table

Comment on July Topic of the Month by Karen

Karen — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:56:42 +0000

I would love to join this site. I am a working mother to 2 from VN.
Let me know if I can join.

Karen

Comment on July Topic of the Month by Reen

Reen — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 04:23:00 +0000

I’d love to become a part of this forum!!

Comment on July Topic of the Month by Jena

Jena — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 17:24:14 +0000

great topic, this one will really get me thinking!!!

Comment on BITCH - A Strong Woman Displaying Stereotypically Male Qualities, Like Leadership and a Voice by Carissa

Carissa — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 19:43:43 +0000

Laurie - I love this post. I love how you put it and I could not have written it better myself! Thank you for sharing!

Comment on BITCH - A Strong Woman Displaying Stereotypically Male Qualities, Like Leadership and a Voice by craftymommy

craftymommy — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 02:04:50 +0000

I have always had a huge problem with anyone (including women) calling anyone a bitch. I think it is mostly because I have never bought into the idea that we can turn the meaning around. I will always think of it as derogatory.

You do have an interesting point in that we don’t have an equivalent term for a male. There’s a-hole or something similar but that’s a general term. Bitch and c-nt are very specific, and very offensive. If you think about it, the only think that remotely touches it, and not, I believe, to the same extent, would be derogatory terms for a homosexual lifestyle - in other words, seeing a man as womanly. I want to write a post for this month’s topic and you’ve given me a lot to think about.

Thanks Laurie!

Comment on BITCH - A Strong Woman Displaying Stereotypically Male Qualities, Like Leadership and a Voice by Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 11:43:09 +0000

I was wondering where this topic was going to go and you totally did it justice (which isn’t surprising to me since you are an incredible writer, thinker, person, etc.) Although I never had any intention of voting for Hillary, she is one hell of a lady and never backed down…for that I am very proud and equally amazed she made it as far as she did but because of her “bitch” mentality she did make it further than anyone expected.

Comment on What if? by Laura

Laura — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:56:01 +0000

I think Kelly said it all and perfectly. Nobody is perfect at this mom gig and anyone who thinks otherwise is fooling herself! Sleep deprivation can turn the most sane, calm person crazy…and I wasn’t even the most sane, calm person to begin with, so not good for me! You’re clealry doing an amazing job evaluating youself. Your daughter couldn’t ask for more!

Comment on June Topic of the Month by Laura

Laura — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:30:28 +0000

Gina, we’re going to miss you!

I LOVE June’s topic. Way to go, Melinda. I’m already thinking of ideas.

Comment on The Ah-Ha Moment by Laura

Laura — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 03:29:33 +0000

I know I’m super late here, but this is a great post, Jen! See, you should have done what I did… set the bar super low so that you wouldn’t have been surprised at yourself. Ha ha ha. Seriously, though, I know you’re doing a great job. There’s no such thing as Super Mom and I think most of us go through what you wrote about. Nice post!

Comment on What if? by Laurie

Laurie — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 15:35:45 +0000

Oh Stacy, I’m RIGHT THERE with you! I call myself a schizo mom all the time because I go from cooing at one baby to screaming at another sometimes. Then I feel like a nutbag and get really upset with myself for losing my patience. Some days I function perfectly calmly (ok, this is RARE) through the screaming, trantrums (the babies’ tantrums, not mine!), and madness. Other days, I lose it. But somehow, at the end of every single day, I end up feeling guilty about some damn thing. Either I felt like a bad mom to one of the kids that day, or I didn’t pay enough attention to another one of the kids that day, or I was so checked out because I felt overwhelmed or whatever. My point is, I don’t think I EVER end a day feeling like “wow, I was a damn good mom to all my kids today.” It just doesn’t really happen.
And like you, I’m always wondering if I’m falling short and maybe I’m not cut out for the job of mommy. I think this is inevitable if you have an overachiever or perfectionistic personality…there’s just no perfection when it comes to motherhood! Ans Elaine is right - it probably just makes us normal and human.
Your job as single mom to a transracially adopted baby girl is probably the hardest out there. And still, you are amazing. Not perfect, because that’s not human. Normal, amazing, and perfect for Delaney.